Being a father for the first time is a great experience of life and nothing completely prepares you for its reality. There are endless books, podcasts, and advice from friends and family, but many fathers can still find it with joy, burnout and arrangement all at a time.
We talked to the first four fathers about one thing they wish to talk about before entering the wild and amazing world of being a father.
It is okay for fathers to talk to each other
Adam Paul, who had a baby girl on October 5, says he wishes to know that the fathers are good to talk to each other.
“Before my daughter was born, I really tried to find out what I could understand,” says Berkeshire -based bridge. “Obviously, I had my girlfriend to talk to things, but be able to talk to other fathers and understand a lot of us in the same boat and those we want to speak,” she said.
“I think traditionally, mothers are a little more of pregnancy and children. Especially for me, I am a lean, and I really have learned a lot of things by asking and asking other questions from fathers. During this time, I remember that I could do my own experience with my father’s experience.”
Child care and care of their mother is deeply associated
Nana Osi-Second had her baby daughter in January 2025 and says she wished she knew “it would be a deep and evolving experience”.
“I completely love to be a father,” says the 32 -year -old London bus driver. There is a wonder of watching this little person who discover a moment at a time and know that I can be their safe place.
“But with this love, there is a sense of powerful responsibility. I have learned that as a father, I can’t feel disabled – not because I don’t feel it, but because I know that my stability is important. Even when I am tired, unclean or too much, I am just active and active, I just have to be active and active.
“Being there for him is one of the most important parts of a good father,” he said.
“I realized that taking care of my child and their mother’s care is not separate duties; they are deeply in touch. When it feels supported, the whole family becomes stronger. And among all chaos, love and learning, I found something that I don’t expect: this role, as much as I can do, I just fill me.
It’s good to have all the answers
Michael Kenns, 30, in April 2021, a four -year -old girl, Sina, says he used to think that a good day means “knowing everything”.
“For example, I thought I had to know all the stages of growth and what happened,” says North?
“But I think it’s important not to harass the details. Instead, want to be for your child, want to learn, adapt, and just enjoy the precious gift life. It will be the happiest and most interesting time of your life.”
Years of despair worth expecting
Daniel Kerr and his wife Daniel have been trying to have children for many years, and now they consider their child a “miracle”. The Independent Republican Advisor in the Northern Ireland Middle Amalaster District Council has been a father since July 2024, and he says he wishes that he knows “years of despair and sadness trying to expect a family.
The 35 -year -old says, “I can be patient to another parents who are going through these struggles, because happiness is much more than the sadness that your turn is for a miracle.”
“I also wish to know about the great sacrifice that a mother has to give birth. I have more respect for what women endure during pregnancy than men.”
