Going to holidays without their parents is the rituals for many teens – and a week or two anxiety for many parents.
Mothers and fathers are often worried that their child is not old enough to deal with the potential dangers of vacation, from alcohol, drugs and the fall of the balcony, to the sun too much.
But how old is old enough to go on vacation without your parents safely?
This is a question that is often discussed about Mumsnet, and the founder and CEO of Parents site says: “For mother -in -law users, whether or not a teenager is ready without their parents to relate to age and to be more responsible.
“Parents are generally looking for symptoms that can turn themselves into a proper meal, manage their time, make money, and make reasonable decisions – especially in cases like alcohol.
“Most parents appear to agree that 17 or 18 years of age is suitable for friends at the age. Some think that 16 is good in certain situations – especially if this teenager is very adult and with an older group – but the general consensus is that 17 preferably.”
And he also points out that rotation 18 means traveling with less legal and practical duties that can make things easier.
Matt Battery, CEO of Triple P UK & Ireland, says all families are different and emphasize: “A response is not a good size when parents should allow their teens to go on vacation without them.
“Parents should not only consider their adolescent age, but they also consider their puberty and ability to take responsibility for everyday life.”
And what does my teenage writer Tannit Kerry think? (Dorling Kindersley, 16.99 pounds), suggests parents that they are anxious to think about their child’s benefits for the first time of their teenagers.
He recommends: “Instead of seeing your future escape as a painful and worrying period for you, think about what they learn about themselves and the memories they create.”
“The fact is that they are probably not at risk of serious events abroad from what they are at home, and they probably will not be more at a middle -class party or one night in a city center in England, than they are at a teenage party or one night abroad.”
However, what are the benefits or not, parents are still worried if they make the right decision to allow their teenager to solitary holiday. But there are steps you can do so that you may be a little concern …
1. Agree with communication methods
Buttery says that when parents agreed to abandon their teenager without them, mothers and fathers would probably be less concerned if they have reliable ways to contact their child during the holidays.
“If the parents feel that their teenager is ready, the most important, open and honest communication is,” he explains.
“Discussion of expectations, borders and agreements about communication methods while they are far away are essential. This does not mean controlling any movement, but it helps them feel confident and safe over their time.”
However, Kerry warns that contact with it should be light, probably only through a family WhatsApp group. He warns: “Try to contact you over and over again, which sends the message that you don’t think they can do alone.”
“If you do not interrogate or hear questions about what they do.”
2. Help plan their travel
Parvaneh says parents may want to work with their child to plan the trip (if their child allows them). “This helps you be aware of their plans and gives you the opportunity to spend your time together,” he says. “This can also allow parents to clear the rules and guidance of travel they visit to their children.”
3. Trust you to trust them
Whether you are involved in holiday planning because they are preparing their plans. Kerry recommends: “Slowly show your interest in a way that you believe that they are ready to be ready, rather than sending implicit messages that they can’t do without you, which may make them anxious or hidden about what they really get on vacation.
“If you are positive, they are likely to get you involved in their planning, and you will feel more confident that they are safe when they are away.”
4. Share travel tipsKerry suggests if your teenager requests travel tips, share the lessons you have learned from your trips, including reasonable precautions you have taken, such as purchasing travel insurance, copying important documents and emergency notes.
He recommends: “Do them a little research or review some of the YouTube travel guides, as well as information about tourist co -tournament in that country.” “This can help any unpleasant surprise.”
5. Use location sharing programs
Roberts says that as well as basic principles such as avoiding areas known for pickups or where spike drinks are concerned, many parents use technology such as location sharing programs. “They can pay attention to adolescents without constantly annoying them,” he says.
“In many cases, they also provided group chats with other parents to share any experts as well as for confidence.”
6. Be clever about safety discussionsInstead of bombarding it, Carrie does not do so, “Kerry recommends parents to focus on safety in a third party, for example by avoiding things like mixing alcohol and height like hotel balconies that we all have to do regardless of age.
“Your teenager may want their independence, but they do not want to end in a foreign hospital,” he said.
Remind them that accidents are very likely after using alcohol or drugs, and Kerry suggests: “Tell them that being drunk clearly makes them more attention to criminals who are prey to tourists.
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Roberts says Mumsnet mother users often suggest adolescents adopt a friendly system to ensure that they are always with at least one friend, stressing that “this can ensure that no one ends in a dangerous situation.”
8. Offer strategies to prevent peer pressureWhen they are about 17 years old, Kerry says young people are not likely to surrender to peer pressure a few years ago. He warns, but this is still a clear possibility.
“They are still able to drink too much and copy of dangerous behavior,” he says. “Help them to reflect on past experiences when they feel uncomfortable or uncertain about accompanying what a friend offers. Remind them to trust your intestinal instinct.”
She also suggests that if their spouses want to do something they are uncomfortable, they talk, such as “I don’t feel it”, “no, I don’t get into it”, or “I don’t want to do something that can affect the rest of our holidays.”
And Roberts adds, “Most of all, parents want to make sure that their teenager will adhere to the agreed rules, remain in contact and (relatively) reasonable.”
