LetterO love and love is what most people want in their lives.
In the modern world, we often see stories about the problems of finding love and fairness of dating and marriage. Sometimes the person we love does not love us. Sometimes we don’t love the person who loves us.
The ancient Greeks and the Romans also had a lot to say about this. In fact, most of the topics that people today are looking for love have already been mentioned in ancient Greek and Roman literature.
So, what did they say? And do the recommendations they are still relevant to modern people?
Advice to find a lover
The Roman Poet (43bce -17ce) wrote a poem called Art of Love (ARS Amatoria). In it, he advised those who are still single.
First, Ode says, you have to try to find the person you are interested in. Your lover “will not float you through the vibrant air, you must look for him.”
As the perfect place to find a lover, Oid recommends walking in porticos and gardens, participate in the theater, or (surprisingly) near the legal courts.
He says you have to take someone’s eyes and then invent an excuse to talk to them.
Ouid says, search your lover on the day. Take care of the night. If you are drunk, you will not choose the right person. And if it’s too dark, you can’t see their faces correctly – they may be ugly than you think.
Second, Oid says you have to look. Make sure your clothes are clean and have a good hairstyle. In addition, keep yourself always properly:
Don’t let your nails project and let them be free of soil. And do not allow each hair to be your nostril in hollow. Don’t let your mouth breath is sour and unpleasant.
The art of love for Oweis may be considered a kind of love manual. But in addition to personal efforts to find a lover, people can also use playmates.
However, it was a difficult process. Sometimes the neighbor did not tell the truth about the positions of the parties involved. So the author of Athens, Xenophon (430-353 BC), says that people were sometimes “deceived by the victim” in the race.
What do you do if you don’t love?
From the past, they recognized that love could not be a problem. They thought this was bad for your mental and physical health, but also extensively for society.
For example, Roman writer Claudius Ilian (2nd century 2 to 3) says in his historical history, soldiers who love soldiers better than soldiers who do not love soldiers:
In the heat of the battle, when the war brings men to the battle, a man who does not love, cannot match the one who is. The untouched man prevents love, and the man who loves escapes, as if he is an foreigner who is unknown in the rituals of God, and his courage depends on his personality and physical power.
According to Ilian, Spartans were punished for men who did not fall in love:
Any man with a good appearance and a person who didn’t love someone who didn’t experience him well is also fined because he did not love anyone despite his excellence […] Lovers’ love for their beloved has significant power to stimulate virtues.
So, when two people love, they can get inspired and bring the best in each other. Being in love can help the person get better and achieve more success.
Fighting and keeping a lover
If we are lucky, the person we love will also love us and we will have no romantic rivals.
But what happens to the person we love to be loved by someone else? We may need to strive to attract that person’s love, but sometimes it leads us to conflict.
For example, Roman lecturer and politician Marcus Toulos Cesro (106-43 BC), in him now, says how Gayus Mammusus, Roman Tribune in 111 BC, apparently brought the bite out of his rival’s rival arm, “when he had more than a friend in Tarracina.”
Some ways for lovers listed in ancient sources include showing one’s wealth.
For example, in one of the plays of Alexis’s poet (375-275 BC), a young man who loves, puts a big banquet to impress his girlfriend by displaying wealth. If it turned out to be too weak, the husband would be canceled at that time.
Of course, everything didn’t happen always and people complained against former lovers. One of the famous inventions from the martial arts (104-104) to a woman named Mannia was:
Mannia, your little dog licks your face and lips. No wonder a dog likes to love eating a stone!
Endless concerns
Today, we often see the issues related to whether it is better to stay single or deal with a relationship.
The same is true of ancientness. In the fourth century BC, Arrephoros or Pipe Girl by the poet Menander, one of the characters says:
If you have reasonable, you won’t get married […] I got married myself – so I advise you not to do so.
Others regretted that they lost their love. So the poet of the Pinar (the sixth and 5th century BC) wrote a poem that he can’t make his boyfriend much younger:
You should have chosen the flowers of love at the right time, my heart, when you were young. But in the case of the bright beams of theoxenus eyes, anyone who looks at them and does not eaten with it is the black heart with a cold fire of steel or iron.
It is clear that it was as difficult to find a lover as much as it is now.
Constantine Penguins The classic and ancient history lecturer at the University of Western Australia is Perth. This article is published by Creative Commons. Read Main article
