C.ICTURE this: It’s Saturday morning and 1995. The mother and father are in the kitchen with the radio and throw the pop tart into the toaster. The kids are outside, they pass through the sprinkler, or maybe watch a PBS again watching Sesame StreetWhile separated with glue, safety scissors, sugar paper and old magazines for cutting. In the afternoon, it’s time to get to the local park with your friends or wander through the market. The day ends with a movie rented from local movies.
Now a regular day to escape the burnt millennium parents, who are dealing with children who are increasingly connected to addictive technology, is seeking to escape. Children are chronic online – from broadcasting as toddler to beggars for smartphones – even with increased warnings about social media risks.
And they are not alone: their vague parents are bombed online with “Must-Do” and “Must-Haves”: from over-Easter and valentine-based baskets for kids to articular lunch boxes, and birthday parties ready to compete with Met Gala.
But the increasing number of thirty -forty -forty -one is going to a new trend – nurturing their children like the 90s. This means that a nostalgic journey down the memory line with simple pleasures such as hanging on board games, abandoning by the public library, launching a lemonade lemonade for neighborhoods, and – horror – gives the kids the opportunity to get bored. The phenomenon has grown to such an extent that the search for “raising my kids like the 90’s” in Tiktok leads to a large number of films that have gained at least 2.2 million views.
For Courtney Schultz, a 35 -year -old mother, a two -year -old mother in Florida, nurtures her children, such as the 90’s, which means no display during the week. She argues that, given her 11 -year -old daughter’s encouragement and a nine -year -old boy football and football practice, they are very crowded anyway.
Schultz says, “I’m not opposed to technology. I’m just for childhood.” IndependentGiven that he and his wife do not allow his children to have a cellphone. “I just feel that technology steals kids from the small window of their childhood.”
Schultz’s children also spend their weekends abroad, while her daughter has her gymnastics in the backyard and her son is fishing in the local creek. If they receive the screen time, it is a little time to watch the things they care about, such as makeup or fishing.
Oregon-based pediatrician Whitney Kazars-who runs his blog as Modern Mommy Doc, where he advises partner mothers-says autonomous games are important for kids. But the constant evolution of the screen in our homes attracts all their attention and leads parents to a new concept.
He explains: “Parents note that their children are not developing the character traits they want to have, such as small and coarse and resistance.” “I think this parental movement has emerged because people are thinking,“ What was the day different in the day? What was different in the nineties? “When we were running ourselves and we knew it was time to come when the porch light was lit.”
While the children of Schultz are hard to display, this is not necessarily for their friends, which can create some very unique actors. The parents explained: “My daughter liked to come to a friend, and my daughter was really disappointed because her friend used her phone so much that my child said,” I can’t even talk to her. ”
Chelsea Delgado, the mother of three children – seven, five and two years old – in Arizona, she raises her children, like the 90s, with her noisings and her weekends abroad. This means filling his backyard with childhood activities, including trampolines, a Wiffle ball and a basketball ring.
Delgado and his wife tell their children that they have to get their screen time, which is only one hour on Fridays, Saturdays and Sundays. The screen time is given to them after completing their dedicated work – to keep the house clean as well as to do homework. If they do not complete the job or get into trouble at school, they will lose 10 minutes or more of their all -out online time.
This 33 -year -old says “I want to keep them in reality in the face of keeping them online or on the screen.” IndependentHuman “I just want to make them more active and feel like this is a healthy approach for our family.”
Research has shown that the screen time among children is increasing. A 2019 study in JAMA children showed that 87 percent of children, between two and five years, exceeded one hour a day after the screen, the recommended amount of the American Academy of Children.
Schultz believes that raising their children with the least amount of time and never on the screen, like him as a child of the 90s, has helped them communicate. In addition to explicit, nine years old and 11 years old are not shy about adults.
“They are not kids who go to their phone when we go somewhere and are not in interaction,” he says. “If we sit for dinner they know that they should talk to friends and family around. If we are ordering food, they should order themselves.”
Likewise, Delgado gives their children’s social skills to the minimum screen time and more outdoor activity. In fact, he said that when his children spend a lot of time on the screen, they are more emotional or confused than usual. When the TV is off, it makes a more peaceful home. However, it does not change the fact that he has returned from his seven -year -old son, because his friends use the iPad after completing each day’s work.
“He loves, ‘okay, it’s not fair! “And I have to explain the benefits of being active and being together in front of sitting on the page all day.” “So he likes,” Well, you are right. I want to be better in football. I want to be fast and strong and use my brain in different ways. ”
Neither Delgado nor Schultz intends to give their children a smartphone at least 14, though Schultz banned their children from joining social media until 18. Schultz is also afraid of the day his kids call, admitting that he becomes a helicopter parent because of worrying about what they can see online.
Casares admits parents that nurturing children is not as easy as the 90s and we cannot pretend that there is no technology. Instead, kids can find ways to find part of our outdoor time, such as cycling with smart watches and playing with rechargeable laser guns – devices that never existed at the time. And prioritizing outdoor time is more than the screen of the screen that parents should be facilitated.
“Giving them a chance for your kids outdoors is to teach them how to take care of them for a lifetime. If you feel it is really an uphill battle to force your children to use this type, try and build on it with a very short time, during days, weeks, months.”
“Because you are really practicing muscle that our kids don’t know how to use it for a long time, and we have to teach them over time.”
